Woke up early this morning with some concerns on my mind.
Do you feel as if we judge one another by the levels of our pain, when it comes to fibromyalgia?
Yes, we are all in pain. Yet all of our pain is different and some may be the same, it’s still pain. Some people with chronic pain move more than others. Some may have more good days than others. Still, they know the pain.
There are people who work through the pain better than others. Some that feel, Well if I’m going to hurt I might as well push myself.
Don’t dislike or always hate someone because of there happiness, or goals they are achieving despite their chronic pain. And yes I agree that I’ve had my moments where I truly believe some people clearly don’t know the pain we feel and they are writing books and saying that if can be “fixed.” And do I dare say “cured” even. Yes I have seen these words from people. That’s when you know they have no idea the pain we feel and deal with every second of our life. But I respect the people who are pushing trying to fight fibromyalgia and fight to enjoy their lives.
What is true to one, may not be true to you but it’s still a truth to someone.
Even our own family and friends compare their pain to ours. Or they want to go back and forth with you on how they feel just as bad as you or they know the pain. They have no clue…
The pain I feel, if they felt it; I’m sure they’d die. Especially the head pain alone would take them out. At times I feel weak but when I see how others react to minor things like a “cold” that reminds me just how strong I really am.
Ok I must confess, when the people I love come to me telling me about this and that hurts. I want to say things like, “why should I care about your pain, if you don’t care about mine?” But I can’t be like that even though at times I’m so frustrated that I do say, “that’s how I be feeling. That’s exactly what I try to explain to you what’s going on with my body.”
I guess it’s difficult for others to notice because I carry this pain so well, I’m used to hiding it and I stand strong. Only one or two people see me at my weakest.
Let’s not hate on each other because our views are different. Let’s empower one another to encourage the hope to keep going and to never give up.